This is a delight to read! Sorry to have been absent for so long, I have so many unfinished posts I should get down to it’s hard to focus! But I’ll get there
Have a beautiful post-summer day!
We all admire those calm, cool and collected moms who handle with perfect grace a misbehaving child or a surprise dinner guest.
Sometimes it feels like they are a different breed.
But they aren’t. We are all capable of being peaceful moms, all it takes is practice. Here 5 simple things we can do today to be more peaceful.
1. Acknowledge our role.
Peaceful moms remember that THEY are the mom. We are the grown ups.
It’s goofy, but I like to imagine being a “wall of jello” absorbing all of my kids’ crazy childhood emotions. I think it’s so helpful when we remember that our children need us to be calm and not simply shoot even more emotion into each situation.
We succeed when we focus on responding to our children, rather than reacting. We have the impact we desire when we focus on averting power struggles, instead of simply winning them. And we show our strength and bring peace to our homes when we model the attitude and facial expressions we want our children to have.
Simple start: Today, test yourself to see how long you can remain calm. 10 minutes? 1 hour? 2 hour? Half a day? The whole day? Do whatever it takes to stay calm for longer stretches each time and note the things that set you off.
2. Get prepared.
Peaceful moms are prepared. I love what Ann Voskamp says, “Only amateurs are in a hurry.” “Life isn’t an emergency.” Too often we hurt our children in our hurry. Peaceful moms, put down their book a little sooner, wake up a little earlier, start the project now instead of later.
Instead of hurrying our children when it’s time to go, peaceful moms hurry themselves when it’s time to begin.
Simple start: Start everything 15 minutes early today. You’ll be amazed at how that little bit of preparation impacts your attitude and your home.
3. Give grace.
Peaceful moms don’t give up on themselves. They recognize each day is a fresh start. Peaceful moms give grace to their children as well. “Let’s try that again…” is often heard in their homes. Peaceful moms don’t worry about what they did wrong today. They focus on what they could do better tomorrow.
Simple start: Instead of issuing consequences today, try asking your children, “How could you have done that differently? Now try that.”
4. Believe the best.
Peaceful moms believe the best about their children (and themselves). People rise up to what they think others see in them. The peaceful mom, hopes the best, expects the best and believes the best about her children.
Simple start: Tell your child 3 things through out the day that you admire about them. Watch them rise up.
5. Give thanks.
A peaceful mom is thankful for her children and as much as possible her circumstances and situations. By living with an attitude of thanks, we increase our contentment and peace.
Simple start: Start a gratitude journal today. Write down 3 things that you are thankful for regarding your home and your family. Consider that there is always someone in the world who dreams of being in your situation.
Anyone is capable of being a peaceful mom. You are certainly capable of it! All it takes is one simple step at a time.